I've known a lot of mothers who have problems with stress simply because they are or become inevitably ostracized from the rest of the world. For most of them, it's not a matter of choice, but more a matter of time.
Being cooped up all alone at home dealing day-in and day-out with a demanding baby can drive a mother, just about anyone, for that matter, crazy! And if you think are, you're not alone. I didn't think going crazy was a real enough word to describe how it actually felt like to be a new mother. Days loop over other days, every second of the time, there's something to be done. The love that a mother feels for her newborn child can be very, very overwhelming.
Don't, not even for a minute, think that it's the way it's supposed to be. Well, to a certain extent, yes, being new to motherhood IS a lot like that. But you're not crazy. With the barrage of activities at home, you're bound to feel wound up. And then there would be the little-little issues over which diaper brand to use, whose turn it is to feed the baby and well-meant advice from other elderly people or the in-laws. It all adds up to a huge mountain of obstacles that might seem a little too hard to throttle up over.
The biggest help for you, as a new mother, is to find an outlet. With how accessible the internet is, many new mothers (seasoned mothers too, in fact) find solace in the fact that they can jot down their memories, the exciting moments, share pictures, write their thoughts down or find advice from friends with the use of a blog. Many of these mothers use their real personalities. For someone who wants a little bit more privacy or would like to be able to blog about the dirtiest secrets that you would like to post into your motherhood blog, you might want to choose being anonymous.
You could name your blog 'amothertryingtobesane' or 'sanityinquestion' or 'newtomotherhood' instead of using your real name. With this, even if you post blog entries about how motherhood is eating away at your self-esteem, you don't have to hide. The problem with using your real personality is that you'd be afraid of what your friends or family might think of you when they read your motherhood blog.
Another option is for you to start your own blog with either blogspot or wordpress (you can choose others if you want, it's just a matter of preference) and check the box where it says only people that you know can access the blog content.
This way, no unwanted visitors can come in and read into every single detail of your life if you don't want them to! The point is that, it's important for you to find the time to sit down and blog about your new life as a mother and share it with others so that you can use it as an outlet of release. You don't have to popularize it if you don't want to but a lot of mothers with blogs find joy in connecting with other mothers who have blog as well.
Sometimes, you'll be surprised with this, these blog visitors can turn into life-long friends.
Marsha Maung is a Malaysian-based freelance writer with two kids. She spends her time ferrying her kids around, watering her plants, writing web content, SEO stuff, ghostwriting books and also indulges in the occasional Facebook-ing. Visit her blog for more dirty details on the life and times of a mother, writer, designer, housekeeper, coffee-maker, poop-wiper, chef...and just about everything else under the sun. |
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